Dating for Black women comes with its own special set of circumstances and obstacles. We can find love, but if we’re not careful or intentional in spotting red flags, we can also find more pain than most. Read carefully, so that you don’t have to pay the toll like I did.

However you feel about this holiday, you cannot deny that for many people, it is a big deal…As a single woman over thirty, I know the feeling of being left out, of the self-pity “why not me’s” that inevitably follow Valentine’s Day. But I made a decision years ago that allowing this day to dictate how I feel about myself is not an option.

…So when I say that it is unfair that women, Black women, must shoulder 50/50 relationships while still maintaining traditional gender roles with very little help, there are very real and dangerous implications other than not being able to “rest in our femininity,”; Black women and babies are dying under this burden.

How do we navigate conversations about weave when dating? Especially in a catfish farm of a world? Is this something Black women should have put in their dating profiles?